Final remarks...

As promised, to you and also myself, I would still come back to the subject of Japanese people and their general way of behaving. In the two and a half weeks that have come to pass, after first having tried to give a rough description of my thoughts regarding this subject, many of my first impressions have come to change for the bad and luckily mostly for the good.

There are basically two statements I must partially retract, the first one being the one in which I state that the English speaking population is rather small, this is not entirely the case as I’ve come to know that most Japanese people get at least 9 years of English study at school. The reason I only partially retract the aforementioned remark, is that they mainly get lessons on how to read and write the English language, the speaking part is often omitted. So in the end this partially explains the awkward scenario described before. Once again being confronted by a partial explanation I was suggested by others to believe that most Japanese live with the burden of a rather extreme case of shyness. And after giving this idea some thought and also putting it to the test, I really have come to know that Japanese people are indeed plain and simple, very shy people.

Another point worth mentioning is that Japanese people, especially the ones of a younger age, do have a strong desire to practice this generally unspoken language.

The second point that needs revision is the one in which I state that there is a general disliking of other Asian peoples in Japan. Confronting many with the same question, I came to understand that young people luckily do approach the other people I speak of, under friendly conditions. The main conflict lies within the realm of politics, which in the end tend to have significant influence on the way both sides perceive the other.

Corrections set a side; let us see how my view of Japanese hospitality has changed in the course of the last period.

Having mostly been in parts of the city that tend to harbour the privileged of this society, one would expect general manners and kindness somehow to be higher, whether it be for honest motives or not, and I must fully agree with this idea, because after having been a guest at very lavish parties, congresses, bath houses, restaurants and bars, I have always been overwhelmed by the attention to detail these people posses. This of course is all done for the guest, and just when you thought you had seen it all, you are once again swept off of your feet, and simply kindly trying to refuse all the generous gifts that are being presented to you by both friend and stranger alike.

My experience in lower and middle class areas are also amazingly good, sure people sometimes bump into you in a crowded street and simply walk on without apologizing, but these can be considered a minor nuisance when compared to the all the consideration these people do show. As one can tell, I am desperately trying to balance things out, but simply find myself unable to.

So are the Japanese just friendly to me because of my origin and alien looks? Who knows, all I know is that I have indeed been treated in ways better than I would have ever imagined to be possible, let alone would have deserved. in the end I guess it’s like our host Professor Kawase said, it’s simply the way of the people, it’s a matter of honour that drives them. A sense of honour brought about by the samurai and thus finding it’s roots in the rich past of this great and unique nation.